Importance of Deep Conversations

The vast majority of our conversations these days are surface level, mainly down to the fact that life moves so fast and we all have a million things we need to do, or a million things that can keep ourselves occupied. These are still important conversations to have to keep relationships going, however occasionally you need to have long, deep conversations with people for a variety of reasons I'll get into below.

• Feel happier and lighter

It's hard to actually explain the feeling, but I'm sure you've had it before where you thought it was going to be a normal conversation, but for some reason an hour goes by and you're talking through a problem, or something you're not happy with, or even just reminiscing on old great times, that leave you feeling a sense of lightness and happiness as you finish the call.

• Feel more connected

You feel more connected to the person than before, which makes you feel as though you are more important to them in their lives if they ever need something, and vice a versa that they are someone you can rely on if you need something. This is because you or they have shown a genuine interest in talking through something and have both invested time into trying to get a better result.

• Facilitate personal and professional growth

It gives you time to discuss goals, ambitions and things you want to work on to improve an aspect in your personal life or professional field. Having a long in-depth conversation with someone where you're both invested, providing each other feedback and talking through things will only result in positive outcomes.

Sometimes you need other peoples opinions and advice, you can't do everything on your own, so having a conversation like this only sparks new ideas and positive outcomes.

• Have more of a sense of purpose

Having a conversation with someone where you discuss plans, goals and how steps you need to take to get there, you'll have a clear sense of purpose, of what you are trying to achieve and actually get out of the topic you're discussing.

For example you want to move into a different department at work because you think you're skillset will be better suited for that, you'll enjoy your work more feeling you can make more of an impact and so you start planning on how you'll get there.

• Learn new things

If you have conversations with friends that's great, but speaking with other people in different walks of life, nationality, career and so on, you can learn so many new things. This will only benefit you further down the road with more knowledge on either a culture, how and why they do certain things. Or a new study on a health topic, to implement within your lifestyle benefitting you living longer for being able to do more of the things you love for longer.

• Increased confidence

Having a clear plan on something will breed more confidence in your belief that you are moving in the right direction, and that your goal is actually achievable. It sounds funny as well, but having a longer conversation can in general increase your confidence as it proves to you, you can hold longer conversations talking about meaningful topics and that the other person is still genuinely engaged too.

• Increased communication skills

Holding a longer conversation will increase your communication skills. the ability to keep a conversation going, story-telling, asking meaningful and insightful conversations that open up topics of discussion, and also very importantly improve your listening skills.